blog six: embodying your feminine energy
The Sacred Geometry of Feminine & Masculine Energy.
For today’s blog post, I wanted to explore not only the topic of feminine energy, but how to embody & move into this flowing & being state - in our everyday life. So that many of us can find a balance with our feminine & masculine in a way that works for our lifestyle & our well-being.
First, let’s begin by briefly exploring feminine & masculine energy…What is feminine energy? Is it a social construct? Is it biological? Is it a gender norm?
Feminine energy is a part of each & every one of us. As is masculine energy. It is our feminine & masculine energies that come together to make up our whole.
Neither is tied to gender or biological sex. We all have masculine & feminine energies within us.
Feminine energy = being. The feminine is intuitive. She receives & she allows.
In her balanced state, she is receptive, feeling, empathetic, vulnerable & creative.
In her imbalanced state, she is powerless, manipulative, needy, co-dependent & over-sensitive.
Masculine energy = doing. The masculine is logical. He gives & uses reason.
In his balanced state, he is projective, focused, achieving, confident, driven & goal-oriented.
In his imbalanced state, he is aggressive, confrontational, controlling, & competitive.
Both feminine & masculine energies in their balanced states are essential to creating & living a harmonious life.
So, now that we have briefly explored these innate energies within us, we will explore the impact of the these imbalanced energies. As well as how to move into our feminine, after living for so long in our masculine.
Traumatic experiences & childhood conditioning often play a huge role in our ability to tap into either our feminine or masculine energies. We can be pushed to the edge of both, & become hyper-masculine or feminine (energy-wise) in the way we approach, process & experience the world. It can even impact the way we perceive ourselves & thus how we act or react to different situations. They can often be tied to our behavioural patterns & toxic cycles, in which our imbalanced masculine or feminine energies are prominent.
For example, in a balanced masculine state, having a hard-working nature is efficient & productive. However, when our masculine energy is heightened, we can go into overworking, & our connection to our feminine energy can be disrupted. If any trauma or negative experiences impact this behavioural trait, it can become an ingrained pattern or response to specific traumas, to overwork ourselves. Which ultimately causes us to suppress & disconnect further from our feminine energy. Over time, it can then become difficult to connect to our feminine energy, thus leaving us in an imbalanced masculine state even without triggers. This can leave us easily stressed, irritable, rigid, & emotionally disconnected.
When one energy is imbalanced it can disrupt the balance of both our innate feminine & masculine energies (yin & yang). Which ultimately make up our whole, & can thus affect our entirety - both in our internal & external worlds. This can affect our emotional, energetic & physical bodies. Leaving us physically sick, unable to emotionally regulate ourselves, or negatively impact our mental health, due to long-term stress. E.G. dis-ease emotionally, energetically, or physically, can lead to disease in any or all of these areas.
There has always been a correlation between our internal energy systems & how it impacts our more obvious psyical or mental health. It is important to be aware of & prioritise our energetic & emotional states of being. We, as energetic & spiritual beings, living in physical human bodies, innately desire & work toward balance. It is our external environments, genetic coding, & generational trauma that play a role in disrupting this balance, as it separates us from our natural beingness - who we truly are. However, it is up to us to ultimately heal & find our way back to our naturally balanced states of being.
Beyond the trauma, the conditioning, & the generational karma.
One of my personal struggles relates strongly to that of existing predominantly in a heavy masculine space. It is why over the past few months, I have been exploring softness & beingness, by allowing myself to return to my feminine state of being, so that I could find a balance within both; being & doing.
On a previous blog post, I wrote about being before doing, as a way to manifest & create your desired life. This process shares similarities when moving from the masculine to the feminine.
So, here are some ways to explore your feminine, & to bring balance to your life again, if you have struggled like myself by living in your masculine for too long.
Balanced Masculine & Feminine Energies
From Masculine to Feminine - Ways to Embody the Flow
Allocate time for YOUR BEING SELF daily - time for nothingness.
When I write ‘nothingness’, it isn’t anything complicated or elaborate. It is exactly what the word says - nothing. Whether it is lying or sitting at home or in nature, do more of nothing.
In a heavy masculine space, your instinct (conditioned instinct) is to constantly be doing something.
When breaking away from this conditioning, you must find comfort in doing nothing. In simply being. Whether it is 10 minutes of staring into space, staring at your ceiling or the walls, or even at the ocean. Or maybe lying with your eyes closed with no real intentions or direction. Surrender to nothing. Surrender to being.
For a while, this may be extremely uncomfortable - you will experience thoughts of ‘laziness’, ‘boredom’, & even anxiety - you will feel like something is wrong because you aren’t actively doing. Your body might be so afraid to stop & be, because it feels like it needs to be ready & on guard to take action or to make plans.
Remind yourself that you are safe to be, that you are safe to exist. You are safe to enjoy nothingness.
10 minutes of nothingness every day will encourage your body, mind & emotions to adjust to enjoying the peace that comes from doing nothing - being. It is our most natural state, & we have been conditioned for so long, to go against it - to repel it - & to be so fearful of it. Take the time now, to priorise this being state. Take the time to prioritise YOU.
Connect with your emotions - feel their flow.
This one again, is incredibly simple. Connect with your emotions - play with them, explore them, & allow them.
We are emotional beings, many of us with the capacity to experience great spectrums & intensities of emotions.
Again, after living in a heavy masculine space it can feel difficult & uncomfortable to be vulnerable with yourself, & to allow yourself to feel your emotions.
A balanced masculine energy respects & honours the feminine for allowing her emotions. An imbalanced masculine energy is fearful of these emotions, as he has ignored, suppressed & even “hated” his emotions. This side of you that may exist, does not know how to handle, process, or regulate these emotions after they have been for so long suppressed. This is why the imbalanced masculine may fear them.
When working towards balance, it is important to engage in activities, new or old, that encourage us to feel. There may be anger, fear, joy, sadness, guilt, jealousy, excitement, & love that arises. They may come in waves, & there might not always be a reason for them. Logic is not needed for emotion, as logic is a tool to help honour & respect emotions for their existence, not to justify, rationalise, or compartmentalise, but to be aware of & appreciate them. This is where you can also learn to become the observer - meditation is truly a wonderful tool for this process.
Start small with journalling, painting, drawing, dancing, or listening to music that gets you into your feelings - into a flow state. Do this by yourself, & create a safe space where you can simply feel whatever it is that you need too. This is a journey. There are no rights & wrongs. You don’t need to do anything with these emotions right away, you just need to create a space within & externally, so that you can honour yourself & your emotions for their existence, in whatever form or shape they may take.
Find comfort in the uncomfortable. In time, this will get easier, & you will feel less overwhelmed by the suppressed emotions. You will be able to regulate them, & become aware of why they exist, & what healing they can bring you. You will begin to realise that you are not your emotions, but that they are energies in motion that you get to experience.
The feminine allows & surrenders to her emotions, not to control them, but to allow them to flow freely. She knows they will pass because it is in their nature to move, to flow, & to be in motion. She knows that they are tools that can teach her about herself, & her infiniteness.
PLAY - with simplicity, softness, spontaneity & sensuality.
An imbalanced masculine energy can often lead to rigidness or the inability to be flexible - essentially the masculine can struggle to go with the flow, which is a key part of the feminine energy.
Allowing simplicity in your life creates space for softness - where you can focus on appreciation & gratitude for yourself & your world. Simplicity could mean removing the clutter in your home, keeping your space clean & fresh, lessening your workload, prioritising rest & play over work, & spending more time in nature, etc.
Simplicity can be prioritising joy over stress & anxiety. Although this might sound difficult, there are patterns of behaviour that you can introduce into your daily routines or ongoing stress cycles, that can become a habit that you are working toward instilling.
For example: When you feel stressed or feel the anxiety & the pressure of a to-do list & or workload, rather than allowing your stress to consume you & then drive you to complete all that you need to, replace that behaviour with one of simplicity & joy. Purposefully choose to do something else that you enjoy or that helps you feel relaxed until it becomes comfortable. Repeat this until it becomes a pattern for you to choose peace over stress & simplicity over complexity/anxiety. In time, your body & mind will automatically adjust.
It is that much more difficult to complete tasks & get work done when you are in a negative or overwhelmed emotional & mental state. Getting into a positive flow of emotions before beginning any task or work makes things flow - it helps you get all that you need to do more efficiently & with ease. It becomes a healthy balance of feminine flow & allows the masculine to do with much more ease.
Softness can be categorised into numerous ways of being. It can be self-care, affirmations, being in nature, feeling your emotions, listening to music, embracing pleasure, & so much more. Softness is a space where you priortise feeling safe & secure - until it becomes natural. From here, softness can become anything & can play a huge role in your life.
As I have mentioned, the imbalanced masculine can be harsh & rigid, whilst a balanced masculine is confident. With this confidence, the masculine trusts himself, his abilities, his talents, & his choices. He knows when it is important for softness, care, & vulnerability to be prioritised - he embraces the feminine. He needs her softness to balance out his directness. Within you, you innately strive for this balance.
Create space & time to be vulnerable, & to be soft with yourself. This is where you learn to trust & find confidence within yourself, & to know that you are a multifaceted being. You can be soft & direct, you can be strong & yet allow vulnerability, you can be flexible & yet know when to make plans. Any choice or reaction to the world that arises from fear or anxiety, is where you redirect this energy & choose from softness & simplicity instead. It is an active choice until it becomes a natural habit.
Spontaneity & sensuality tap into the innate passion of the feminine. It is important to get to know yourself, your desires, your dreams, your pleasures, & your ultimate WANTS.
Logic may push you to follow the plan, stick to the rules & traditions, & create structure - for all of your relationships, career choices & even financial decisions. Logic is a beautiful & wonderful tool to help support you through this human world & society, as it is predominantly masculine energy.
However, as I have mentioned before, being comes first & doing comes after. Being could be the gut feeling - your intuition, your emotions, your desires & more. Where doing comes in, it is the plan of action you take after you have come from a place of being. If you are living your life being controlled by your mind & by logic, you are living only from your masculine.
Allowing spontaneity & sensuality means exploring your feelings of freedom, of joy, of passion, of pleasure, & of love. For the world, but most importantly for yourself. Make last-minute plans, say yes to more fun, do things you’ve always wanted but have always been too scared to do, be more wild, dream & follow your dreams, be romantic with yourself, listen to your inner voice over everyone else, & choose love over fear. This is not about choosing the feminine over the masculine, it is choosing a balanced feminine & masculine over an imbalanced masculine.
A balanced masculine does not make decisions out of fear. Fear is not logic. Fear has been introduced through conditioning, trauma, expectations, societal “norms”, & so much more.
The feminine feels what she wants & what she loves, & the masculine takes action toward it.
As you can see, there are many ways that you can embody your feminine energy, as you also strive for a balanced masculine energy. It may feel very uncomfortable at times, because you may have been conditioned to live a certain way for a long time. & as I have mentioned, traumatic experiences can also negatively impact your ability to feel safe & find balance within. So, be patient with yourself.
This is all part of the healing journey - the journey of discovering & embodying your true & whole self. Make time for yourself - for all parts of you. Choose love again & again. Be & then do.
With Love & Light, Bella <3